The Weakeness of Motivation

Are motivational books meant for people who are eager to succeed or for the mediocre and unmotivated?

They should be for the mediocre and unmotivated, but the ones that read them are the ones who are eager to succeed.

The Best

“If you accomplish that,

will you be seen by your audience

as the best in the world,

or will you be seen as doing your best?”

Seth Godin

World Business Forum 2010

Conferencistas World Business Forum 2010. Guayaquil, Ecuador. http://www.ailaonline.net/ailavideos.htm

Empower Peace

A friend shared this website with me, I´d like to share it with you:

http://www.empowerpeace.com/

Old Habits Die Hard

http://www.spike.com/video/old-habits-die-hard/2654488

I sometimes get requests to write about certain topics.  I thought this one was adequate for this time of the year.  They sent me this link in case anyone wants to see it http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Your-Own-Best-Friend\

If you can control your thoughts, you can control anything.

Analyzing feelings of depression and loneliness, there is a correlation to the characteristics that those lonely people wish in an imaginary profile of what they would like their significant other to be like.  If you look at the desired characteristics they list and you know the person well, you will find that most of the times they want someone who resembles a reflection of their weaknesses.   For example, if they say they want someone who is a quiet person, perhaps that person feels insecure being with someone who garners attention. Reasons may vary, but there is a history behind that list.

A person will always feel lonely if they are constantly seeking for someone else as a complement to fill a void of their own personal weaknesses.  The spanish expression media naranja means you should be looking for your other half.  Meaning, one person will never be complete on its own.  This feeling of being incomplete until finding a partner or friend that complements you is not healthy.

There are habits that keep us from working on our weaknesses.  Habits are like addictions.   Bad habits tend to reproduce feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness or simply feeling like a bad person.  The repeated habits and the conscious negative feedback we give our unconsciousness begin to form what we think is our reality.  So we are always in the search of finding a solution outside.  A solution, a friend,  to complement us and make us feel better about ourselves because we get trapped in the game that we cannot improve on our weaknesses.

According to Ann Graybiel from the MIT Mc Govern Institute changes in the brain occur every time a habit is created and every time it is broken, but will be easily re-created once something sparks that extinguished habit.

“We tried to simulate the learning and forgetting of a habit,” Kubota said. “If a learned pattern remains in the brain after the behavior is extinguished, maybe that’s why it’s so difficult to change a habit.” http://web.mit.edu/newsoffice/2005/habit.html

It is important to create good habits that promote well-being that slowly replace bad habits.  Also, to incorporate into your life activities that encourage positivity.  Finding meaning, guidance and support by leading a richer spiritual life enables this process.  The more you talk, listen, surround yourself and act in ways that guide you towards a deeper spiritual connection, the easier it will be to find inner peace, happiness and your other half inside you.